Lack of Desire

Dear Fany,

The last year has been extremely stressful. I love my husband dearly, and we have always had a very wonderful intimate life, but I am really struggling with that aspect of my life during all the stress (including caring for many small children and a new baby). My husband is perfect really, and is very kind and considerate, but I am just frustrated with my own lack of desire. Do you have any helpful advice?

This is very normal. Women are emotionally driven...while men are physically driven. Therefore, women have a hard time disconnecting from their stress to enjoy intimacy. We have all been there at times. My suggestion to you is to find a way to distance yourself from the stress before intimacy. This can be something as simple as playing a board game together. You can add your own intimate touch to the game. This way you will get excited and distanced from stress at the same time. Such as: Strip Skipbo, with only 5 cards in the pile. It can be any game you like-with your element of fun! If your mind is on the game and your man....it can only turn into a nice together moment! I do not recommend a movie. Tired Mom's just fall asleep! lol