VENTING/DEFENDING

Dear Fany,

How can you vent when all your friends are interconnected? Or defend yourself for that matter?

Everyone needs to vent at one time or another. It is nice to have someone you can talk to and confide in. But, you need to be very careful about who you confide in. It can cause several problems you need to be aware of. First of all, the person you choose to confide in needs to be removed from the situation. They cannot be emotionally involved. It is possible that they can hold a grudge long after the situation is resolved. Second, you need to make sure you confide in someone who is the same sex. Never go to someone of the opposite sex. Third, make sure it is someone who can keep a secret and that won't share all of your information to the world.

It is sad that you would feel that you have to defend yourself to someone. But, I would suggest going straight to the source. Dealing with people face to face helps to keep from having misunderstandings. People have good intentions-it just doesn't seem that way all the time. Prayer before a discussion with someone is always a good idea. When we are inspired we tend to have a more positive result. GOOD LUCK!!